“If you were an animal, what would you be?”
“A bumblebee trying to fuck a marble.”
“The eyes are the amulets of the mind.”
It’s one of my favorite subjects.
Hey, you’ve been around
here long enough to
recognize some of what
I’m talking about here…
“A beautiful eye makes silence eloquent.. “
“The first thing I look
at when I look at a
woman is her eyes.”
— to clarify —
the eyes are where I START.
……. and then,
if I see somebody
HOME IN THERE,
well, then, sure,
I’ll probably be checking out a
lot of other stuff pretty quick….
—– but the eyes
always come first.
” The soul that can speak
through the eyes
can also kiss with a gaze. “
( Gustavo Adolfo Becquer )
Big, deep, wide, reactive eyes…
those are the kinda eyes
that’ll run shudders down
my spine and draw me in…..
put those on a pretty,
Anybody who’s seen
knows the kind of eyes I mean….
………………… the Manga artists
know just how erotic the eyes can be.
And of course, the ancient
Egyptians were wild about eyes…
their art demonstrates their belief
that the EYES are the windows to the SOUL.
I couldn’t agree more.
The Chinese have an art –
part mysticism, part anatomy, part who knows what…
It’s called Chinese Face Reading….
and a large part of it
has to do with trying
to predict personality
(and the future) by the
type of eyes a person has..
there’s also an Irish/Celtic
mythology built around
……… here’s a
but fun set of pseudo-factoids
about the shape and color of eyes.
Lemme know how you come out…….
……………. you know, I’m NOSY that way.
Good mechanical or practical abilities.
Strong maternal or paternal instincts.
Dependable, capable and proficient.
Good mathematical or spatial abilities.
Works well in a team environment.
Good workers, middle managers.
Fun, people people.
Good with general knowledge, technicals.
Works well in a small group.
Organized, and well structured thinking.
Good intellectual or physical abilities.
Make loyal friends, work well individually.
Addictive personality type.
I dunno how accurate those huge generalizations are…
……… but lets try some more.
” I don’t know what it is about you that closes and opens, only something in me understands the voice in your eyes is deeper than all roses.” (e.e. cummings )
Each eye a different color was considered by the Irish to indicate a specially gifted individual, while the Chinese looked at it as a sign of potential success in business or politics.
Small eyes are thought to be indicative of detail orientation and thoughtfulness.
They are also considered to be
even tempered and careful,
and are good companions
for more rash tempered or
less careful mates.
Protruding eyes are thought
to indicate judgmental people,
or those extremely selective
of other people’s company.
These folks are aggressive
in business, and sometimes
Inset Eyes: is a sign the person may be secretive and careful how they express themselves. They rarely crave any attention –
shying away from the spotlight
when possible. They like to run
things behind the scenes
Large Bright Eyes: a sign that
the person is open and giving,
honest and forthcoming. The
Chinese consider these eyes
the luckiest and most beautiful
to have, and the Irish have a
tradition about these kinds of
eyes being possessed by
Triangular Eyes: Folks with
these eyes are thought to be
rather two-faced, and devious.
They can be resourceful,
and very vengeful.
Oval Set Eyes: Thought to
be a sign of an “Old Soul”;
a person who is generous
with good advice, and is
wise beyond his years.
Reddish Eyes: These are
considered to be excitable,
dangerous people with
‘a criminal type’.
Plump Eye Lids: Caring,
nurturing, make good parents.
Good common sense.
Large Lashes: Thought to be
a sign of easy virtue,
voluptuousness, perpetual youthfulness.
High Eye Brows: Snobbish,
rather vain and superficial.
Lucky with money and investments, and careful
Well, there you have it…
…. my contribution to the plethora of urban myths and ole wives tales already choking the internet airwaves….
No need to thank me…….
my posts are their own reward.
” Look into my eyes and
hear what I’m not saying…….
…..for my eyes speak louder
than my voice ever will. ”
I’ve seen it
too many times .
one really can learn a lot
from the ancients, as well.
“Pygmalion“, for instance:
…….. an interesting and
out of Greek Literature.
( Eliza Doolittle,
played by the lovely Audrey Hepburn in “My Fair Lady” —
was a modern spin,
George Bernard Shaw’s to be exact, on this ancient tale. )
Ovid in his Metamorphoses, X,
describes Pygmalion as a Cypriot goldsmith,
whose hobby was sculpting.
A committed bachelor,
the principle character
Pygmalion acquired a
particularly beautiful piece of ivory,
…. and started to carve the figure of a woman.
Soon, he became quite
taken with the sculpture.
…..while quietly meditating on his wish for a bride that would be the living likeness of his ivory girl.
Upon his return, he kissed the statue, to find warmth in her lips.
He touched her breast, and felt the ivory turn to flesh.
His wish had been fulfilled by Venus.
Now, I’m sure my regular readers
are trying to guess where
I’m gonna go with this…..
And, sure it’d be easy enough
for me to get distracted.
But, this story also has several
implications for those interested
in human potential.
I am a true believer in this power, but it’s not really
our topic today, either.
and the one we will talk about here, is the power of belief .
We know, of course,
that Ovid’s story is fiction, sure.
It is, however, useful in explaining the principle using symbolic language.
It also demonstrates why the phenomenon
is referred to as the ” Pygmalion Effect ” .
And, the intervention of a Greek Goddess
is not always necessary to see this effect in action.
( Although, getting some coaching
from Venus sounds pretty fun to me )
There is a common adage among
those interested in the study of
human potential which is
called the “Thomas Theorem”
( after Sociologist D.S. Thomas ) :
” If men define situations
as real, they are real
in their consequences. ”
An easy way of seeing this principle is:
Thomas Merton’s famous example
of a ‘run on the bank’.
At the beginning of the day,
the bank was solvent, with
enough assets to cover their usual needs.
But, something triggers a
large group of withdrawals,
and once this is observed,
others also withdraw their money,
causing rumors of insolvency,
which of course, causes more
and more withdrawals, until….
…………………… the prediction finally becomes the reality.
People taking dives off of high buildings, and all that.
There goes Parkinson, now.
what bearing does this
have on the individual ?
William James, in his
“The Will to Believe” expressed
the idea of self-validation of a positive belief.
One who believes something must happen,
— will be more effective in MAKING it happen.
Not to get totally carried
away with the technical mumbo-jumbo of it,
These are roughly categorized
into “personality dimensions” –
1: “Openness” — this dimension would include imagination, creativity, and insight.
2: “Extraversion” — this dimension includes social amenity, expression, and assertiveness.
3: “Agreeability” — includes affection, kindness, altruism, and trust.
4: “Conscientiousness” — includes motivation, drive, organization and goal direction.
5: “Neuroticism” — includes emotional reactivity, sadness, anxiety, and polarity.
Every person has each of these dimensions in their personality,
albeit at different strengths and levels of dominance or influence.
……… each feeding off each other, and all interacting to produce a state of mind and level of functionality.
Think of it as a chemical reaction..
…add a teaspoon of a 3% percent solution of this,
and a tablespoon of that,
and you get one result…
…add a cup of a 6%
percent solution of this,
and a dash of that,
and your result is much different.
Sorta like how I cook…
Which brings us back to the student model of the Pygmalion Effect .
How did the raised expectations of the teachers affect student performance?
Well, if you think of the above personality dimensions as having been permanently
defined from birth, it would
be an impossibility, right?
That theory would mandate that what capacities and personality facets you were born with were what you would have to work with.
And we all know that isn’t so.
These personality aspects are in constant flux.
Their levels change,
and so do their dominance
in the personality hierarchy, if you will.
One can see how
this amalgam of characteristics might function very much like the people in the bank….
…….. and bringing about an end that none of them by themselves could have.
That’s where the principles of the self-fulfilling prophecy and creative visualization come in.
Now, no one is saying that a person might modify, for instance, the course of a comet through the force of his will.
It’s not about that.
If that was the case,
all I would have to do to
get Valerie Bertinelli hot for me
would be to think about it hard enough.
And she isn’t even taking
my calls at this point.
What we are saying is that you can have more control over your interactions with your daily environment, by directing your personality dimensions toward a positive self fulfilling prophecy.
Simply put, by concentrating on a desired goal, and by visualizing yourself achieving that goal, you direct your mind- to start working toward it.
Try it with a short term goal you’ve been meaning to achieve.
Spend a couple minutes -every morning- visualizing you achieving your goal.
A few minutes more before bed–
(with or without Valerie)
If you stay with it,
… you’ll find yourself in a situation
very shortly where you can’t help but achieve it.
Then, put the principle to work for longer term goals.
The most important aspect of it is to simply reinforce your goal commitment every morning and evening.
I can’t promise your ivory statue will turn into a real girl,
or Miss Bertinelli,
…. but I can promise you that your more realistic goals will become much easier to attain.
And that, truly, is a gift of the gods .
!!!! HOY !!!!!