Carson McCullers says:

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“There are the lover
and the beloved,
but these two come
from different countries.
Often the beloved is
only a stimulus
for all the stored-up love
which had lain quiet
within the lover
for a long time hitherto.
And somehow every lover knows this.
He feels in his soul that
his love is a solitary thing.
He comes to know a
new, strange loneliness
and it is this knowledge
which makes him suffer.”